Thursday, August 7, 2014

Something had to give.....

I really dislike when I get on a good schedule of posting each day, and then I go a week without a post. But, we've had a very stressful couple of weeks. I often go back and forth with how much I want to share here. But, for the most part I find it therapeutic to let it out because I have found so much wonderful support. But before I get into our on going "move" saga.........
Here's a look from work last week - yet another non-maternity maxi dress that I've had for a few years. So easy and comfy!
Sonoma Maxi Dress - Kohl's
Jean Jacket - TJ Maxx
Seychelles Departure Wedges - Anthropologie
Heart Necklace - gift from hubby
If you want to read on, the rest is at the end. If you just stopped by for outfit inspiration, then enjoy!

So it's been a year now since my hubby took his new job. A job which is 95 miles away. We thought our move would be fairly quick..... we had put our house on the market and showed it several times a week. We were looking at houses. I was happy I could keep my job, where I worked from home half of the time and would commute about 50 miles when I did have to go to the office based on where we were looking for homes. It all seemed like a good plan.
A few months into the process, we tried to buy a home that had been foreclosed. It needed a lot of work, but we were up to the challenge. In the end, we didn't get it. Our house hadn't sold so we weren't in too big of a hurry. Around that same time, my company announced a project that would affect my job. I waited another 3 months to find out exactly how it would be affected but still did not know enough information to make a decision. At that time, the contract on selling our house was up so we decided to take it off the market until we knew more. Plus, we were having the absolute worst Winter to try to show a home.
Four months later, I had all of the information I needed regarding my job, and decided I would not try to move forward with the direction our department was headed. Plus, I was pregnant! This meant we could get back to focusing on moving. Since I am still employed until November, I figured I could look for a new job after I gave birth and had sufficient time with the baby. We relisted our home and started looking for homes again. The real estate market on the East side of the state seems to move much faster than it does here. One house that we liked sold before we were even done looking at the 3 others that day! Another house we put an offer in on, we could not come together on price. Finally, we got an offer accepted on a house that we loved, with the contingency that our house sold.
Ahhh, a sigh of relief.
A few days later, the seller got another offer. We had 72 hours to decide whether we would remove the contingency and go forward with purchasing the home (without ours being sold). A huge financial burden with a soon to be one income household and a new baby on the way. Let's just say that was probably one of the worst 3 day periods of my life.
Believe me, we analyzed this until we were blue in the face:
Over the course of a year, we'd probably looked at 30 homes in person (and countless others online) and nothing came close to checking everything off our wish list than this one. Plus, it was under our top budget. Knowing what it's like to be on the selling side, I did not want to waste our time or anyone elses time in looking at homes that were not going to come close to what this one was.
Jon's commute is stressful for both of us. He spends close to a mortgage payment in gas, and if that weren't enough, close to 4 hours in a car a day. I am a "single parent" in the mornings and evenings until he gets home. When he does get home, he doesn't have any time or energy to do anything whether it be a task around the house or something he enjoys.
My level of anxiety of getting this move done before the baby comes was not going to go away. The thought of living out of cardboard boxes with a newborn is one of the worst things I can think of. I know how much work a newborn is, and I know myself. I like to have everything in it's place, organized, feel calm in my surroundings, etc..... I know it sounds really stupid and trivial but that is just who I am. I feel guilty because I know there are much worse problems to have, but again it is just who I am. Living in limbo has stressed Jon out too, just in different ways.
So, it came down to deciding which was the lesser of two evils. No matter what we decided, it would still be stressful. Either go on living like we have been for the past year (which has sucked) OR take this risk and hope that our house sells soon.
We decided to move forward. Something had to give......
This week, we are in the process of having inspections done at the new house, and figuring out how the minor issues that were found will be taken care of before we close. Which in turn has made us think.... Oh gawd! What are they going to pick at if we ever get an offer on our house? Which hasn't been inspected in 12 years and was built in the 30's versus 2001?
At any rate, I am trying as hard as I can to relax. I have an immense amount of "Mom guilt". When I was pregnant with Richard I didn't have to deal with any of this! I could just kick back and listen to classical music. With this one, I am chasing a 3 year old (which I know everyone does if they have more than one), plus this house and job mess! Worried about the new baby, and my patience level with Richard with all of this going on. Whew! Deep breaths...... one day at a time.

Linking up with The Pleated Poppy


Charm Bracelet Diva {at Home} said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I'm in a bit of a stressful moving situation as well and I have come to the conclusion that I can only take it one day at a time. Otherwise it's just too overwhelming. Three kids. Husband works 2 1/2 hrs away in another state. Our house has been on the market but has not sold. Houses where we wanted to move are selling within 24 hrs. Just took our house off the market and are trying to regroup. He lives in a hotel M-Thur and comes home Thursday night through Sunday night. Aaarrrhhgh! Hang in there, it'll all work out!

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Wow! That is a lot to deal with Heather. I would have taken the risk, too. In the end, it will be as it was meant to be. I think the 95 miles each way would have been the ultimate decider. That is so stressful. My husband commutes 50 miles each way and I do not know how he does it. In fact, I am up waiting for him to get home. I am glad you are moving forward. Now you can build a nursery. You don't have to constantly keep the house clean in case it needs to show. I am excited for your future. The most important thing is seeing your husband more.

You look beautiful and I loved the house pictures in the background, especially with this post.

You can always write me if you need to talk. : )


Whimsical Preppy said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

It sounds like the house that you chose is your dream house and you would not want to let that one get away. Things will fall into place and even if you have to be inconvenienced for a little bit, it will get better.
By the way, I love that Maxi dress!
Have a relaxing day,

Kelsey Bang said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

moving! how exciting, and a ton of work! good luck! love your beautiful dress! such a cute look!